Have you ever heard your little one say: “Mommy what’s wrong; while you’re screaming at the driver in front of you?” Or your baby continues to cry as you try to sooth him/her while on your iPhone yelling at the late repairman? Society tells us we’re unproductive if not doing something every waking moment. Stress is everywhere in our lives! But did you know your stress affects your children too!
Children are sponges, they absorb and hear everything. Your frustration about getting to all the activities on time. Your whining to your spouse about your crazy co-worker. Your anger at the neighbor’s dog that barked all day. Your littles wear your stress!
An article in Forbes How Parents’ Stress Can Hurt A Child, From The Inside Out sites “David Code, who wrote the book Kids Pick Up On Everything: How Parental Stress Is Toxic To Kids, has made a career of pulling together the evidence from a handful of labs around the world, which have suggested that parents’ levels of chronic stress can seriously impact a child’s development. There’s no time when parental stress doesn’t affect a child. “
Evidence of how our stress affects our kids is everywhere!
Another article in US News and World Report says: “Make no mistake, parental stress has an impact on kids, whether it be the yelling they endure or the added tension they feel. Stress has a trickle-down effect on families.”
What can we do about it? We need to create a sense of calm in our homes.
How can you create a sense of calm in your home? Begin with these 5 strategies:
- Don’t start the morning with the news. Instead, listen to a calming music mix.
- Laugh! Have a bubble wrap popping party, talk about the silliest thing you did today or tell a stupid joke.
- Unplug from social media. An article in Health.com relates: “The more often people check social media accounts, texts, and email, the higher their level of stress, revealed the American Psychological Association’s 2017 Stress in America report. Findings from the Pew Research Center underline another negative Facebook effect: Women are particularly vulnerable to stress from social media due to being aware of lousy stuff happening to friends.”
- Skip that afternoon coffee pick-me-up. Instead, take a brisk walk, diffuse peppermint essential oil, or play energizing music.
- Down-shift your evening commute. Diffuse lavender in the car, listen to a relaxing music mix or spend time praying.
I’d love to hear your strategies to create a sense of calm in your home. Comment below.